As a lesbian, hatred of bisexual women is at a an all time high. It's disgusting and just because they aren't systematically oppressed the same as lesbians and gay men are, doesn't mean it's okay to harass and torment them.
I'm really sick of men acting like we have anything in common. I'm a lesbian, not a straight man in a woman's body. Gay men, straight men, at the end of the day they end up treating me like one of the guys and subjecting me to locker room talk. That, or it's the casual misogyny in a lot of gay slang. I'm sick of transwomen and this expectation that as a lesbian, I have to validate every single one of them as beautiful and kind and soft even when they just still look like men. I respect their identities, especially when they're dysphoric transhets aka into men and not women, but they all have that same attitude, like I'm a button to press for auto validation. I'm also very, very sick of this like constant subliminal message that I'm woman-ing wrong. I'm not even very butch, but people hear that I'm not attracted to men and it's "what are your pronouns by the way?" even when they were instinctively using she/her for me five minutes prior. I'm sick of a lot of things.
I wish I could say LGBT spaces made me feel more at ease but it's the opposite. As a lesbian I just find it distressing. Can't have anything that's "women only" without getting hate.
5/5/2021 When I was suffering an identity crisis and personal trauma, I was manipulated into changing my name, wearing a binder, and pretending to be a manRead Now When I was suffering an identity crisis and personal trauma, I was manipulated into changing my name, wearing a binder, and pretending to be a man.
In reality, I’m just a lesbian with autism. I didn't choose my sex. I didn't choose my race. I didn't choose my sexual orientation. I didn't choose to politicize any part of my biology. I just want to exist and everyone thinks my existence is up for debate. I'm in an impossible situation where one side doesn't want me to have any rights and the people who say they defend my rights agree this body is wrong, this color is wrong, this love is wrong. I just want to BE and BE left alone!!!!!!!!!!!!
5/5/2021 I didn't want to be called queer, so people took it on themselves to explain why they were going to call me queer anywayRead Now I realized I was a lesbian at 19, after years of painful repression in a deeply conservative and Catholic environment. It was like breaking the surface after nearly drowning. But when I tried to get involved in the gay community I was alienated at every turn. I didn't want to be called queer, so people took it on themselves to explain why they were going to call me queer anyway. I wanted to meet other lesbians, and I didn't understand why that made them so uneasy. I was applauded for wanting to conform to lesbian stereotypes... until I said that I was trying to be more visible in order to find a girlfriend. I realized that my homosexuality was only celebrated superficially...when I expressed desire to do any more than wear fun patterns, people became uneasy. I've met so many "queer" people. I ask if they're SSA. They talk around it and don't want to answer. I can see the answer is no. In truth, the lgbtqia community is devoid of homosexuals at this point, particularly homosexual women. It's a lot like hanging out with conservatives, but with glitter and even more self righteousness. I feel politically homeless, and I resent it. I will not be quiet about the fact that the lgbtqia community does not stand for the lgb anymore. It's been stolen from us.
5/5/2021 It’s so alienating. I can’t do anything that centers females, or fuck, even that shitty vague nebulous concept of “woman” anymore without getting put down. I’m so sick and tired of this community. Get the L out because you all hate us until youRead Now It’s so alienating. I can’t do anything that centers females, or fuck, even that shitty vague nebulous concept of “woman” anymore without getting put down. I’m so sick and tired of this community. Get the L out because you all hate us until you want to be us, and I’m sick of it.
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