4/27/2021 It doesn’t feel like the we can raise our voices without being condemned. Even loud mouths like me feel silenced. And then feel bad for keeping quietRead Now Feels like a depressing time to be a lesbian. Thirty + years ago much of the world wasn’t too keen on us but we campaigned, formed alliances and lived and loved to the full as progress was made. These days it feels like we are going backwards. I’m in a progressive local group (almost certainly the only L and maybe the only G in it) where out of left field someone recently attacked JK Rowling and TERFS. It doesn’t feel like the we can raise our voices without being condemned. Even loud mouths like me feel silenced. And then feel bad for keeping quiet. But who wants to be bashed by those who know better than us mere lesbians or gay men. There’s such a rainbow of identities that we must respect and we know we will not be tolerated if we don’t show respect on their terms. If only we got the same respect. I’m not an identity, I am a lesbian.
4/23/2021 the first thing that came up was my political purity and whether my upset was due to the presence of the penis and not the act of assault itselfRead Now When I, a lesbian, had been sexually assaulted by a trans woman the first thing that came up was my political purity and whether my upset was due to the presence of the penis and not the act of assault itself. I stayed quiet about it after that.
as a lesbian im ashamed to be associated with the modern LGBT community... i cringe to think what my family and former classmates must think of me.
I’m not happy. Lesbian now includes sexually intact men who claim to be women. I not supposed to refer to myself as a woman. I’ve become a uterus haver and according to the HRC I no longer have vagina I have a front hole. Only trans women have “vaginas”. Lesbians are being erased and being pushed aside to accommodate and spare the “feelings” of men in dresses. Stonewall, the HRC, the ACLU, organization are all aboard the trans train. It sickens me!
4/18/2021 We have to swipe through endless transwomen and women using violent misogynist slurs like "terf" on dating appsRead Now We have to swipe through endless transwomen and women using violent misogynist slurs like "terf" on dating apps
I have to hide my sadness about GNC women renouncing womanhood. I am silent on the subject, it is the safest way to be.
I am a survivor of domestic abuse at the hands of a male partner.
I was assigned a male caseworker at the women's centre. When I requested a female caseworker he pushed against that boundary, saying everybody else believes he's a woman. It was retraumatising. It took such strength and courage for me to re-assert my boundary. I was scared to tell my girlfriend what had happened. When I did she was understanding but said she'd like me to become more "anti-transphobic" 4/18/2021 Being female, a feminist and a mother means there is no place for me unless I become complicit in my own oppression and dehumanisationRead Now I objected to the toilets at my university being made unisex. I contacted the women's officer with my concerns. She ignored me and tweeted about punching terfs. I received a reply from the trans officer offering to "educate" me.
I feel no community whatsoever. Being female, a feminist and a mother means there is no place for me unless I become complicit in my own oppression and dehumanisation. It is not possible to find other women like me in real life because I am too afraid. The word "queer" is an insult, this or pronouns in someone's bio or email signature are now a red flag for me. They might be a perfectly kind person, but the pronouns tell me they are liable to publicly denounce me and make me unemployable if I put a foot wrong. |
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