7/5/2022 the pressure to be 'not like other girls' alongside knowing I was a lesbian and that trans people existed was enough to tip me overRead Now Growing up, I was a victim of internalised misogyny. Everywhere I looked, girls and women who were feminine were being derided and made fun of. Of course that made my young self want to distance myself from femininity, want to claim that I was 'one of the boys.' I spent ages doing this, and at the peak of this phase discovered the brainwashing minefield of lgbt+ instagram. Suddenly I was convinced that I wasn't a girl after all, but trans. Demi-boy, transmasculine, you name it. I was attracted to women too, and the pressure to be 'not like other girls' alongside knowing I was a lesbian and that trans people existed was enough to tip me over and for a brief while consider myself as a trans boy. This was utter and complete bullshit. Now, I understand that there is no 'one' way to do femininity, and that just because something is feminine does not make it lesser. I can enjoy things typically seen as masculine (climbing trees, dating women, etc) and this does not detract from my woman-hood at all.
It is almost as if, as society increasingly considers people moving from one 'box' of gender to another, the boxes themselves become smaller. When I was growing up it was common to be considered a tomboy type, but now people would be called trans and medicalised. I believe transgender people do exist, but with today's increasing pressure on women and impossible standards many girls believe the only way to escape these is to opt out of womanhood entirely, which is incredibly sad. Comments are closed.
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