Lesbians are being shunned from the community, our own lesbian and female-centric spaces, just because we know we don't like dick or want men in our spaces
It feels like criticizing misogyny in the LGBT community- or even acknowledging it exists, is looked down on and actively discouraged. I'm sick of people being dismissive of the trials and tribulations of being a woman in this world, especially people that consider themselves so "progressive." I don't feel welcome in the LGBT community as a lesbian. There's so much sexism and outright hate for women that I can't tolerate it.
The rhetoric you say about SSA [same-sex attraction] hurts more than Christian homophobia. You guys were supposed to be on my side
I wish my own community wasn’t saying I have a “genital fetish” for being homosexual. I wish my own community wasn’t telling me there is no difference between a dildo and a penis. I wish my own community hadn’t pushed me out.
3/20/2021 I wish I could talk about how non-conforming women are being pressured to identify as a different gender to validate transwomen's "femininity"Read Now I wish I could talk about how non-conforming women are being pressured to identify as a different gender to validate transwomen's "femininity"
3/20/2021 our experiences of being raised female continue to impact us as transsexual adultsRead Now As an FtM I wish people understood that we face extra high levels of certain types of misogynistic violence, particularly sexual abuse and ipv. We aren't exempt just because we pass as men, and often times passing constitutes the new danger of double violence motivated by both misogyny and transphobia if we are outed. Being biologically female isn't something we get to opt out of, and our experiences of being raised female continue to impact us as transsexual adults. I can be both female and a man, and being written off from every direction only obfuscates our real problems.
3/18/2021 I tried seeing a therapist because of my constant fear that I truly am as evil as the world seems to think I amRead Now I tried seeing a therapist because of my constant fear that I truly am as evil as the world seems to think I am. It didn't help.
I dated a trans-identified male. It was exactly like dating a man but he wanted to be degraded during sex. He turned out to be garbage and I've been dating exclusively women since and it's been much better. However, I am back in the closet because I don't want to be involved with the lgbt/"queer" community. They're sterilizing gay kids and everyone knows it's wrong and I don't want anyone to associate me with that. I'm a straight normie now until further notice.
3/14/2021 I don't understand how this misogyny, this homophobia can be so open in what should be our communityRead Now I'm a lesbian. There's always a distance, a separation between me and people who are attracted to members of the opposite sex. I can never relate. We don't have the same preoccupations. So I was looking for community, for people who could understand that. I had recently moved to a different country, so a completely new life, though we shared a language (English is not my mother tongue).
I only dipped my toes in the "lgbtq+ community". I hoped to meet other same-sex attracted people in the "lgbtq+" club at my new university. It was not a community. There were some gay men and some lesbians, but there were also men who told me to my face that they were lesbians. That I should "be open to penis". That I was a bad person for being a lesbian. I didn't stay. The other lesbians looked uncomfortable too. Some stayed, I guess the loneliness was too strong. Some didn't come back either. I don't understand how this misogyny, this homophobia can be so open in what should be our community. But instead it's just a hate-the-gays-and-the-lesbians fest and if you don't join, you're hated on too. |
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