5/5/2021 Just like my old religion, men's feelings and sensibilities must be taken into account in everything that women doRead Now I was raised in a very patriarchal religion (Mormonism) where women are subservient in every way that matters. We are allowed to have no leadership positions without the permission or surveillance of men, even in our own organizations. Girls are taught to consider boys and men in EVERYTHING that they do – no, you can't wear those shorts that come to slightly above your knees, because your friend's dad might look and have impure thoughts – and that would be YOUR fault. You have ambitions? Make sure they don't get in the way of finding a man and having his babies. I left the church when I was 17 after finally realizing it wasn't all just in my head – the sexism really was there. I also had begun to realize that I was gay around that time, so I was hopeful that the rest of the world would be more accepting. I was excited to join LGBT spaces and meet people like me. But it wasn't like that. I left one cult and found out that what awaited me was another. In LGBT and other "progressive" circles, women don't have the right to assemble without the presence of males who, by nature of being male, have no ability to relate to the experiences of female people. Just like my old religion, you aren't allowed to question the ideology (in this case transgenderism) without being ostracized. Even dating apps specifically for lesbian and bisexual women do not have the option to filter males out of our dating pool. Just like my old religion, men's feelings and sensibilities must be taken into account in everything that women do. I do not ever want to be in a space where men feel like they have the right to appraise my appearance and decide whether or not I'm fuckable, but I can't even escape that objectification in "lesbian" spaces. Trans "women" will never be women – "womanhood" isn't comprised of magical sparkly feelings and pillow fights at slumber parties, it is just the term for a female person who has made it to adulthood, despite the cruelty inflicted upon her by a misogynistic society. Trans-identified males will never understand the female experience, and their continued insistence on access to the spaces of vulnerable women makes that crystal fucking clear. I just want my boundaries to be respected.
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